3 QUESTIONS YOU NEED TO ASK YOURSELF IF YOU WANT TO DISCOVER YOUR PURPOSE
I believe that within every one of us, there is a deep seeking and a genuine desire to become who we were meant to become, to serve our purpose, and live a fulfilled life.
In this blog post, I want to share with you three questions you need to ask yourself if you are not yet sure what your purpose in life is and would love to discover it. There is a concept in Yoga called Dharma. It can be translated to purpose. The reason why we are here unique to every individual. It is our unique role and mission. Our Dharma is both fulfilling and serving the world. It also means the truth. What is your truth for this life?
It took me a long while to discover my Dharma. I was certainly off my path for a long time before I decided to answer my calling. But you don’t need to wait that long! You don’t need to fulfill the expectations of others first and hope that one day you can finally align with your purpose. The world needs you, your unique gifts, talents, and the message you are meant to share now.
Here are the three questions to uncover your Dharma:
1. What are you naturally good at? What are your gifts and talents?
It does not need to be something extraordinary, considered a genius skill, like mastering a musical instrument or winning a Nobel prize (however, it can be!). It can be something very simple like the ability to really and truly listen, or maybe a talent to bring people together and create a community. Perhaps it is the love for learning and teaching or helping others in need. Cooking and sharing meals with loved ones. Take a piece of paper, and take a moment to think about: what comes to you easily? What are you naturally good at? What are your friends telling you that you have talent fort? What brings you joy? If you feel stuck, ask your best friends, partner, family member.. someone that knows you well, and, most importantly, someone who wishes you well. The second question might be surprising. It is tricky, and you may have to go deeper into yourself and possibly feel the pain of old wounds to discover that. You will have to look at yourself in the mirror, at everything you accept and don’t accept in yourself… be completely honest with yourself.
2. What were your biggest challenges in life? What difficulties did you go through?What are your traumas?
What experiences in life do you wish were not there? What things are tough for you to accept? Or maybe you accept them but haven’t found the real meaning of these things or experiences yet? Tantra traditions (these two paths are very closely connected, Hatha Yoga comes from Tantric tradition), we all come to this world with an already predetermined mission and purpose. We choose our parents, where we are born, our surroundings, and some events in our life are predetermined, like some major events. They were there because our soul chose this life and these circumstances to fulfill its mission. Overcoming your biggest challenges and fears brings you closer to who you truly are and to fulfilling your dharma. What did you gain from overcoming your challenges? Did they make you stronger, more resilient, and motivated to serve others? How can you serve others once you overcome your challenges and heal your wounds? Once you change the perspective of viewing these things, you will hopefully discover gems and your own truth. It will hopefully give you insight and will allow you to make sense of what has happened to you. It will help you accept (and maybe even be grateful for!) your imperfections. Remember, it is not about how challenging your difficulties are. We do not want to be in a drama competition. It may be something as simple as overcoming the resistance to forgive someone.
3. Finally, ask yourself: how can I bring my talents with my wounds together?
Combining these two things: what you are naturally good at, and the difficulties you had to overcome (or are still working on overcoming) will allow you to embody and live your purpose.
If you want to align with your Dharma, it is crucial to take some time and answer these questions. Try the following:
- Take time to become quiet and calm through meditation or walk in beautiful nature.
- Grab your journal or a big piece of paper. On one side of the paper, write down all the things that you are good at and bring you joy. On the other side, write about difficulties you had to overcome, your traumas, and things that are difficult to accept.
- Again, take a moment to go inwards and be aware of what is happening inside
without trying to analyze things or find answers.
- Write down any insights if they have come. They may not come in precisely that
moment, sometimes hours or days later.
- Move on with your day.
- Stay present and open to insights, signs, or messages that come to you.